Creating connection through intergenerational play
JFCS’ Jewish Youth Mentoring Program, Senior Services, and NextGen will host its next Intergenerational Game Night on Sept. 18
By Dori Gelfman, RN • Jewish Youth Mentoring Program Coordinator
When I was growing up, we would play board games together as a family. There would inevitably be an argument and negotiations about which game to play and who went first. At that time, it was all about the competition and winning. Once I had a family of my own, I realized it was more about spending intentional time together and not being distracted by other obligations. Games are a vehicle to open conversation, provide laughter, and promote togetherness and a little healthy competition, of course.
Our team at JFCS’ Jewish Youth Mentoring Program (JYMP) and Senior Services department had the idea for an Intergenerational Game Night after discussing what mentoring really means and how it could be used to foster connection between older adults and teens.
Understanding the high levels of isolation occurring throughout the country, and seeing a need for increased mentorship opportunities, our program’s first Intergenerational Game Night was held in May, where we had a small but mighty group of both seniors and teens. While sitting together at a table with strangers might seem uncomfortable, no one had any reservation about playing, talking, and sharing. Connection and mentorship is at the core of the “why” behind this program.
The verb “mentor” means to advise or teach. As adults, we know we are always learning from each other, either formally or informally. Whether you are taking a class or simply observing others, learning can always occur. The more we connect with others, the more we learn. Though playing games might not seem like a learning opportunity, play keeps us healthy, happy, and connected.
In fact, playing keeps us healthy by “make(ing) us laugh spontaneously, releasing endorphins that can increase feelings of overall well-being, relieve pain, boost immunity, reduce stress hormones, and more. Play isn’t just good fun—it’s good for us.” (HelpGuide.org) When we play board games with others, connection occurs and positive feelings increase.
As we age, it is natural for our social circles to contract. Friendships change, relationships fade and unfortunately, friendships are lost. As such, social circles diminish and the option to simply gather to play diminishes, while the risk for isolation and loneliness increases. By holding intergenerational play opportunities, both seniors and teens can connect in a shared activity that promotes positive feelings of connection, builds stronger communities, and increases social bonds.
September is Intergenerational Month. Join us as we celebrate at our next Intergenerational Game Night on Wednesday, Sept. 18, from 6-7:30 p.m. at JFCS (5905 Golden Valley Rd, Golden Valley). Plan for dinner, games, snacks and prizes. Click here for more information and to RSVP!
We plan on continuing this initiative throughout the year, if you are interested in helping to plan, have an idea, or would like to help host an event, please reach out to Dori Gelfman at dgelfman@jfcsmpls.org.